This means fewer cappuccinos and holding off on getting the latest phone model."Regardless of how much kids ask for material things, what they really care about is how stressed their parents are," she says.Everyone needs an emotional support system, but your child shouldn't be the one to provide that. "Accept that sometimes every parent is going to drop the ball," Dr. Keep it simple, as though you were sending a memo to a colleague." Or consider going digital and using an online calendar service such as Google Calendar that lets you create different calendars, share them with others, and allow multiple parties to add and delete events.Dilemma: Trying to stay on top of the kids' sports practices, appointments, and homework as they switch back and forth between my house and my ex's is exhausting! This allows you to have personal and work calendars for yourself and one that you co-manage with your ex.Play at the park, watch movies on TV, and cook meals at home.If money is tight, you need to spend less everywhere--not just on the kids.
Dilemma: I get so jealous when I see my girlfriends who get to ask their husbands to fix the leaky faucet or take care of the kids when they are sick. Solution: When you need help, you have three options: Learn it, ask for help, or pay for it.
Save their emotions for the true one, not a fleeting romance."Dilemma: I feel guilty that I couldn't make it work with my kid's father and I resort to trying to "buy" my child's forgiveness with trips and toys. Solution: "Using money or trips to get your child to like you will work temporarily and backfire later because your behavior has taught your child the wrong lessons," Dr. "Guilt is an emotion that is useful only if you figure out the root of the problem and then do something to resolve it." Consider talking with a friend or seeing a therapist to help you work through the guilt if it's too hard to move beyond on your own. Roberts says, "kids are resilient to divorce," and although they may like the gifts and trips at first, they'll wise up to the fact that you are trying to buy their love and forgiveness.
"Resolve your guilt and commit to being the best single parent you can," Dr. Dilemma: My ex and I share custody of our sons, but their mom has very different rules at her house than I do.
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If you're motivated, put on that learner's cap and dive in. Roberts says, "Trying to be good at everything will drive anyone crazy." If the task is beyond your skill or interest, call in favors from friends and family members.