I found out about it 3 years ago, and now the Sex Addiction has reared it’s ugly head. About 2 years ago, I moved to his home country with him and now we are married, no kids, a house and 2 great jobs. I would say that I am attractive, smart and successful myself.
I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years and we met while I was in university. Together, from the outside, we must look like the perfect couple. 3 years ago, while we still lived in the US, I found out something extremely shocking.
I confronted him right away on the phone and he was hysterical and apologized and begged me to stay.
Long story short, we never sought therapy for it and I forgave him because I didn’t think he had any kind of addiction – I had never even heard of a sex addict. A year ago, I was visiting the US for 2 weeks and came back and was on the computer when I saw the history of web pages, I saw that he was on a pornography website.
For the immediate/foreseeable future: You will go to counseling once a week for a period of 6 weeks (however, if your counselor feels that you should be going more, then you will), and I will go to counseling individually as well.
We will go to one initial session together, then you will have your 6 sessions by yourself, then we will meet the counselor together again after your 6 sessions.
Well, to say that I have just found out about it is wrong.He spoils me in every way and I love him very much. Then earlier this week I was on the computer again and his work email was up. 99.9% was work, but there was 3 email exchanges that he had had with a brief girlfriend back in the states that I opened – he had just written them day before. She had originally contacted him, asking him how he was.He started to bring up history – most shockingly, he told her that HE WAS NOT MARRIED, but he “lived with a girl”.If I even suspect that you are doing something shady, then I will move out and initiate a divorce.If you truly believe that this marriage is the most important thing in your life, then you will think about the repercussions of all your actions to the marriage.