It could be that a lackluster relationship seems more appealing than tackling the holidays solo.
“It's definitely never easy being the only single cousin at a holiday gathering teeming with husbands, wives, partners, and babies — raise your hand if you're in your 30s and still sit at the kids' table! A few years ago, Leann, 30, was in “a pretty crappy seven-month relationship” with her then-boyfriend, Jeff.
I guess I just felt like I needed someone to help me get through it.”If you decide to stay together, be aware that certain holiday traditions can heighten relationship tensions.
Here's a big one: Spending money on gifts and travel.
Sure, those state-of-the-union discussions can be uncomfortable, but they're worth it for clarity’s sake (for both of you).
“If you feel like your relationship has hit a plateau or needs your attention, have an open conversation about it," advises Marni Battista, a dating coach from Dating With Dignity.
I grew up in an evangelical household and he was basically a left-wing activist type...dealing with all the tension was the nail in the coffin for us."If you feel stuck in your relationship and decide it’s time to walk, be sensitive, but follow your gut.
Sadly, I’m going to have to end a fairly good relationship tomorrow with a smart, cute, funny woman. She had been working Saturday when we met and I was okay with that.
It’s not a money thing but more of a do-gooder thing to her.
“Before I met him, I had been single for years, and I remembered how lonely I had been,” she explains.
“So, I ended up waiting to dump Jeff until after the holiday madness died down.